I think I'm getting a wee bit jaded when it comes to what constitutes "Kinky Sex". My best friend confided in me today that while she's been having an affair, she's been having the "raciest" (her word, not mine) sex ever.. so naturally I was intrigued... Turns out she'd only ever had missionary style sex with her husband (while he sweated over her - again her words not mine)! SO, when she got with this other guy, he told her to straddle him, while he was in his car, parked outside on the street (albeit at 10.30pm). SO... She fucked him, in his car, while straddling his lap, her arse knocking against the steering wheel, not once, or twice, but FIVE FUCKING TIMES yesterday.
That got me thinking. She thought *that* was totally kinky. I thought that it's kinda "hot" but I didn't consider it particularly kinky. When I was 17 I lost my virginity in a car, parked in the sand dunes. And then when I was about 19 I got really drunk off my ass in an English Pub, and woke up in the back seat of my friend Joe's car, having sex, in France.
Really though, as I thought more about it today, it's all about your imagination. SO, she coulda been talking during the whole experience about opening the window, so random strangers might hear, or ever look in on them, while they're fucking like rabbits on a main street. Or maybe she left out the part that he grabbed her by the arms, and shoved them behind her back, all the while holding them tight while he fucks her. Perhaps she was aggressive, jumping on his lap, ripping open his pants, pulling his cock out, and pushing it into her cunt; all while she ravished his body, slapping his face, squeezing his throat while shoving her tongue deep into his mouth.
Kinky sex I think comes down to whether or not one or both of you have an imagination.
So, while I was sitting on the hood of my car, watching my kids climb a tree today, I coerced my husband to get into the car & have sex with me. He thought it was a *very* kinky afternoon.... I think the fact that my friend is having an affair, quite "kinky". Definitely Racey. The few times a year that I have "missionary sex" with my husband, it's definitely kinky missionary sex... I'm usually the one on top, and he's in the missionary position, with his legs open, and me in between, riding his cock up and down, although I'm telling him, that I'm the one with the cock, and he's the one who is getting fucked.
Some years ago, I met a girl who claimed to be kinky. We were partying with a group of friends, and I asked her what she was into.
ReplyDeleteOral sex.
Oh, and having sex partially dressed.
She then asked me what *I* was into. So, I told her.
The shocked look on her face was priceless.
Yeah, quite often, people say "kinky" when they simply mean "wild" or "fun."
(I think my initial response didn't make it)
ReplyDeleteI've learned that "kinky" has such a wide connotation that it's almost meaningless. Years ago, a woman in our social group was crowing about how kinky she was. When asked, she replied that she was totally into oral. And a couple of different positions. Oh, and sometimes having sex while wearing a piece of clothing.
To her - and to some of our friends - that was pretty kinky. And to be fair, it was the late 70s.
You can imagine the reaction when she asked me what *I* was into.
I guess that explains the adage of "I'm kinky, you're perverted."
Oh nichole I am so glad to see ypou posting. I fear that I don't tell women in my life anything about my kinks hence it never works out.
ReplyDeleteIt is a difficult conversation to have. How to start it. I don't even know.
So glad to see you back posting, thanks!
ReplyDeletei find myself constantly having to watch my mouth when someone proclaims themself as being "kinky". to them kinky is owning a pair of handcufss. not using them, just the thought of using thme makes them kinky. their kinky is my boring. i LOVE your idea of kinky. kinky is relative to what someone has experienced. i don't consider the idea of "furries" or "baloon play" fun, but it is certainly kinky and almost beyond comprehension for someone that has only experienced missionary. i feel sorry for those people. the fun that they are missing out on is such a shame. for the love of all shits, do something different. live outside of your comfort zone for 10 minutes and try something new in your sexlife. not you Ma'am, them! variety is the spice of life. i have told more than a few women that were interested in me that we simply would not be good sexual partners as they not kinky enough nor did i think they ever would be. one girl was a great friend and thought that the sun rose and set in my pants, but we never had sex. the idea of someone pulling her hair or putting a butt plug in her or pinching her nipples just turned her off and practically threw her into a full on homicidal rage. good grief! if she only knew what she was missing! You are a rare animal, Ma'am. rare indeed. and your hubby is one insanely lucky man. bring on the kinky. your kinky is DAMN sexy, Ma'am!!!!
ReplyDeleteYes, I agree...kinky is really just a state of mind, and is always relative to experience. But I personally think the world would be a better place if MORE people thought of themselves as kinky...I think the more sex positive people whacking off on whatever they consider kink, the better!
ReplyDeleteKinky is as kinky does. I guess being kinky is whatever a person percieves it to be.
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